Paternal Bliss Creates Successful Negotiations
Effectiveness in negotiations can require Herculean patience and discipline. A sense of humor doesn’t hurt either…
“In the Presence of Humor,” a book by Cy Eberhart, has a story about a contentious management-labor contract meeting: “…One of the management negotiators (felt the tensions rising) when they broke for lunch. Upon leaving the conference room he was handed an urgent message to call home. He called his wife and tensed up when he heard her distraught voice, but then relaxed in amusement when she described her concern. The school principal wanted to meet with her about an incident regarding their son, and she was upset over what might happen. Their son had allegedly heaved a water balloon towards a group of girls standing outside the school. He told his wife over the phone that nothing terrible would happen, and offered her some suggestions on how to handle the meeting with the principal.
Returning from the lunch break, he was still amused by the incident. He appeared even more detached from the intensity of the negotiations. The others, alert to his behavior, wanted an explanation. He said it was just a personal matter that had nothing to do with the negotiations, but they insisted on knowing what was going on, so he told them. They all laughed and got back to business.
The seemingly impossible then occurred—with an ease and quickness that startled him, they found areas of agreement and made remarkable progress. Before lunch, he was an enemy ‘on the other side’. In telling his story, the others understood because they were husbands and fathers too. When negotiations resumed, they came from a solid place of commonality rather than differences.”